I have had two different people ask me if we are planning on "reusing" Harper's name for Pooh. This question is unbelievable to me. Why would we reuse her name? That is her name, it is the name we gave to her. People with living children don't name their kids the same thing, do they? Of course not. So, why would we?
It just brings back to the surface that most people really just don't get it. Do they think that just because Harper passed away that she doesn't count anymore or that her name doesn't belong to her because she is not alive? Do they not understand that she is our first born and always will be? That just because she died doesn't mean that she isn't a person. That we love her, planned for her, wanted her, and still miss her so much that it hurts.
Every time I hear about another little girl who is given the name, Harper, it stings me and it kind of ticks me off (like I have rights to the name Harper, or something). And I suppose it will always feel this way. "Harper" is a name that has been gaining in popularity over the last 9 months or so, which I attribute to a few celebrity babies. For us, it was a family name and when we chose it for our girl, it wasn't popular at all. It was my husbands great grand-father's middle name. His name was John Harper Johnson. So I assume that it was a surname from that side of the family from long ago, since that is what southerners do. :) It will always be a special name to us because it is our daughter's name. It is the name we gave to her. And her baby sister will have her very own, special name, too. Well actually, she already does! Stay tuned for that :)
on birthday grief
23 hours ago