Wednesday, September 15, 2010

The Kindness Of A Friend

I received the most lovely card and willow tree figurine from a friend and co-worker yesterday. It was definitely unexpected and it meant so much to me (and Chris). As many of BLMs (baby loss mamas) know, after a certain period of time people 'forget' that your baby died and they 'forget' that you are still grieving, they 'forget' that your life is forever changed. Their lives are still moving forward and they expect you to 'get over it' and move on with yours. They stop asking about how you are doing and they stop mentioning your child. So, to receive a card with such a lovely inscription acknowledging my pain, my loss, and my child and to tell me, I think of you, Chris and Harper daily, it just brought me to tears. It is really hard to express into words how much this touched me, especially coming from someone who had not lost a child. Don't get me wrong, I know everyone experiences emotional pain and I am not trying to undermine that. I am just saying that the loss of your child is an unimaginable type of pain, indescribable. It is a different pain and it was nice having that acknowledged. It is so nice to have people around me who love me and understand that there is no time limit on healing. Thank you, my sweet friend.


Healing is an inside out process.
It begins in the heart with a glimmer of hope.
The more we trust in it, the stronger it becomes until we are mended-
body and soul.

Good things happen when we BELIEVE...


6 comments:

Emmy said...

I think the gifts and acknowledgments from those who haven't walked this road are sometimes the most special. What a sensitive friend you have - she's a keeper!

Dana said...

That is so nice that your friend did that, especially considering that she has never known the pain of losing a child.

My Mom's friend, who I know quite well, went to Scotland in July/August and bought me a necklace there, just because she was thinking about me. I was so touched. She keeps asking me to go out for lunch and I think it is just so nice that she realizes that just because a few months have passed, the pain is still there.

A coworker just asks how I am out of the blue once in a while. And I know that she really does want to know.

These are the people that I will always be grateful to, gestures that I will always remember.

You really learn who your true friends are when tragedy strikes.

butterflymom said...

I'm so glad you have people in your life that are there for you...it's so important to help us get through these horrible times. Thinking of you always...

Jessica said...

How wonderful to be given such a gift by a coworker! That is great! And I agree good things do happen when we believe!

rebecca said...

So glad you were given such a thoughtful gift, what a wonderful friend! I agree have to cherish those friends who continue to remember that although the rest of the world is moving forward you are still a mother grieving the loss of her child. Much love my friend!

Melissa said...

That is so sweet.

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